Here is another reason I despise the Fundamentalist Christian mindset.
When speaking of how to raise a child, one particularly vile example of Fundie, Catherine Cook (who I have mentioned in previous posts) had this to say:
Bring up your child in the way they should go, and they will always keep to it. Teach your child to obey you, and to fear you. It protects the child from harm, teaches them what love truly is, and teaches them to trust you and respect autho...rity. It also teaches them wisdom in making the right decisions all their life. They turn out happier, and healthier with the same families of their own. Otherwise they are constantly facing bad consequences, and terrible life ruining situations. This is biblical. Our heavenly Father has the same love, fearing Him leads to wisdom, which is obedience for our own safety and happiness, or else we face the ultimate punishment for rebelliousness.
If we love our kids, we sacrifice ourselves and our feelings for them. If we love our kids, we invest in their future by bringing them up to live independently peaceful. We do not wait until they are older to discipline them with a beating because we lose our tempers! Do not wait to spank them when your mad. Do it right away, when you aren't mad! Spat them boldly on the behind now, when they are little, and you won't have to yell and beat them and lose your patience all the time later. Instead your life and theirs will be peaceful together, and you stop spatting and spanking at a very young age, because they have already learned respect, obedience, and they actually love you for it! All kids love a limit. It shows them you care!